Dr Nadia Farhat, MBBS, MRCP
Consultant in Geriatric Medicine
There are usually two people in the room and I am only asked to see one of them. The patient sits in the first chair, and in the second chair, holding the bag with the tablets in it, is the person who knows what has actually been happening: who noticed the confusion started on the Thursday, who has watched the walking get worse over six weeks, who knows which tablet gets refused every evening. In a twenty minute clinic that person is very often asked nothing at all. Most of what goes wrong at home afterwards was sitting in the second chair, unasked.
I am a consultant in geriatric medicine. My working week is frailty, falls, delirium, dementia, medication that has quietly accumulated over fifteen years, planning discharges that hold, and care at the end of life. Almost none of that happens in a hospital. It happens in somebody’s front room, carried out by a relative with no training and no rota, and the quality of it depends on whether anyone ever explained the reasoning to them.
I put my name to the clinical half of The Care We Need. That means the pages on medication, spotting deterioration, falls, delirium and dementia, pressure damage, continence, eating and drinking, moving someone safely, and the pages on dying at home. On those pages I check that the explanation matches current guidance, that the warning signs are the right warning signs, and that the page tells you plainly when something is a call today rather than a question for next week. No page here gives a dose, and I would not sign one that did.
The scope line matters, so here it is drawn twice. The pages about assessments, benefits, attorney paperwork, siblings, work and money do not carry my name, because they are not medicine and it would be misleading to imply a geriatrician had validated them. And on the pages that do carry my name, what I have checked is whether the information is accurate in general. I have not met the person you are looking after, examined them, or seen their notes. Only the clinician who has can tell you what any of it means for them.
Articles medically reviewed by Dr Nadia Farhat
- Am I a Carer? The Word That Triggers Everything Else
- Carer Burnout and Your Own Health: What the Evidence Really Shows
- Being Heard in Appointments: Ten Minutes, One Page and the Dated Sentence
- Adaptations and Technology at Home: The Assessment, the Ladder, and the Limits
- Caring for a Parent at Home: What the Job Is and Where to Start
- Why Carers Skip Their Own Appointments: The Cover Problem, Not the Motivation
- Caring From a Distance: Organising Care You Cannot Deliver Yourself
- Caring for a Partner, Not a Parent: What Spousal Caring Demands
- Choosing a Home Care Agency: The Vetting Method, Not a Directory
- Coming Home From Hospital: The Discharge a Carer Has to Plan
- Continence and Keeping Dignity: The Change That Is a Medical Sign
- Eating, Drinking and Weight Loss: When to Stop Cooking Harder
- Dementia Care at Home: What the Job Is at Each Stage
- Day Services and Community Support: What Each One Is Actually For
- Delirium or Dementia: The Distinction Every Carer Should Learn
- Getting Help In: Every Kind of Support, and What Each Is Actually For
- Falls at Home: The First Minutes, the Causes, and the Assessment to Ask For
- Guilt, Resentment and Anger: The Feelings Carers Do Not Admit To
- Moving Someone Safely at Home: Transfers, Equipment and the Lifts to Refuse
- Managing Someone Else's Medication: The Round, the Ordering Cycle and the Review to Ask For
- Palliative Care at Home: What It Covers, and the Out of Hours Plan
- Paying for Care and What You Can Claim: The Whole Money Picture
- Preventing Pressure Sores at Home: The Checks, and Where Two Guidelines Disagree
- Respite Care Explained: The Forms It Takes, Who Funds It, and What the Trials Show
- Repeated Questions and What to Say: Why Correcting Rarely Works
- Sleeping When You Are On Call: Why the Chance to Sleep Does Not Fix It
- Spotting When Someone Is Getting Worse: Baseline, Speed and the Same Day Call
- The Care Needs Assessment: What It Decides, and How to Get One
- The Carer's Assessment: The One About You, Which Most Carers Never Have
- Sundowning and Difficult Nights: What to Rule Out Before You Manage It
- Wandering and Keeping Someone Safe: Risk, Locks and the First Hour Missing
- The First Two Weeks of Caring: A Fortnight Ordered by What Expires
- The Last Weeks: What Changes, What Is Expected, and Who to Ring at Night
- What Unpaid Carers Actually Do: The Full Inventory of the Job
- When Caring Ends: The Money That Stops, the Paperwork, and the Identity Gap
- When a Parent Refuses Help: Capacity, Unwise Decisions and What You Cannot Override
- When They Do Not Know You: What Is Happening, and How Carers Carry On
- When They Go Into Hospital: The Carer's Job on the Ward
- Who Does What: GP, District Nurse, Social Worker and the Rest of the Cast
- When Home Care Is No Longer Enough: The Signs, the Sums and Who Decides